As many of you know my sister is living with me. She moved out here in the middle of December with the goal that she’d be living with me while she went to school. The idea was that she’d live with me while she got her AA and then transferred either to my school for the remaining 2 years (since I can get her 50% reduced tuition) or somewhere of her choosing.
That plan hasn’t worked so well. Since moving to Kansas all she wants to do is move to Arizona to live with her boyfriend. He obviously wants this to happen. She wants it to happen. And now her mom is supportive of the plan. My sister has refused to make friends. She has refused to find a job here. She does fine with her classes, but other than going to school she has intentionally made herself a recluse. Because all she wants is to be somewhere else.
I’ve decided that I yield. I can’t force someone to do the right thing, no matter how right I know it is. I can’t force someone to take a free place to live, free education, free books and be happy with it.
So I’ve decided that if going and living in Arizona is what she wants I am just going to make sure that she screws it up as little as possible. I’ll help her in the ways that I can by making sure she applies for a job, starts a savings account, and gets her admissions tests and application in to the school there correctly.
I’ve decided that as long as she’s happy and as long as she’s going to school than I’m going to be okay with it.
In essence, if this falls apart or succeeds I want her to know that it was her choice and no one else. But that if she wants to go back on that choice, I will be here for her.
I’ve decided that I will continue to help pay her tuition if she goes to school and continue to get her Chemistry books and continue to love her, but that’s as far as I’ll go. I won’t help her move. I won’t pay for gas for her to get there. I won’t do any of those things. That is her responsibility.
I have just decided that I won’t stand in her way, I’ll help her with the educational aspects. I hope that is enough for her cause I love the crap out of her and don’t think she’s making the smart decision. But this is something that she has to learn on her own. And who knows, maybe I’ll be wrong.
It is funny to think that 6 months ago she was as excited to get to Kansas as she is now to get to Arizona.