Dating Kiss of Death
March 24, 2010 16 Comments
Now, I know that I said I would move all dating related talk to my dating blog (please comment or email or tweet me if you would like access).
However, not all dating topics are strictly personal and not all money topics are strictly financial. Some times the two work hand in hand.
This past weekend I had a date with Mr Humble.
I won’t go into the details, I’ll save that for the dating blog, however I learned something huge on this date.
People give you signs of their relationship with money status all the time!!!
For instance, Mr Humble will be in a situation where starting next month he gets an extra $550/month.
And what did he casually mention about having this money?
“Now I’ll be able to start paying off debt and maybe get comic books delivered to my door.”
This tells me two things:
1) Mr Humble has debt, quite possibly a substantial amount, and even though he is 35 he hasn’t started seriously paying it off
2) Mr Humble has a problem with priorities and his money
Later on during the date he mentioned how his ex got mad at him one time for spending $600 on some electronics. To paraphrase him “But it isn’t like it is that much money or that big of a deal.”
Another two things learned about Mr Humble:
3) Mr Humble thinks that $600 is nothing to spend of electronics, yet $550 extra a month will suddenly get him out of debt. Wah?! I think someone needs to rethink things here…
4) Mr Humble doesn’t know/hasn’t learned/doesn’t care about money communication in relationships.
I never realized how much people actually reveal about themselves in casual comments that they make. I’m sure he didn’t mean to “out” himself as a financial misfit, but he very well did.
Obviously my monetary situation is perfect, but I’m making leaps and strides to make it better. I’d like to meet someone who either has already accomplished this or is also in process like me. I’m walking towards financial independence and would like someone with me to hold my hand, not pull me back down.
Thanks for the insight Mr Humble.