Don’t Let Fear Stop You
March 17, 2010 11 Comments
As a follow up to yesterday’s post about making a decision, I want to talk about fear.
Sometimes the reason we don’t make a decision isn’t because we don’t know what to do, it is because we’re afraid to do it.
Afraid we might fail.
Afraid we won’t cut it.
Afraid we won’t like the outcome.
Afraid of the work it will take to accomplish our goals.
Afraid of change.
I have dealt with a lot of fear. Fear of applying for a faculty job because my ideas weren’t good enough. A fear of deciding if I should take a job because I’m not sure I’ll like the place. Fear of leaving relationships I knew in my heart I shouldn’t be in because I was afraid of being alone.
What I see most commonly, at least in the town that I live in, is people who are afraid of furthering their education. So I’ll use this as an example.
I live in a town where 60% of the population has a college degree (over the age of 25) and nearly all of them (okay, I haven’t talked to all of them, but the one’s I’ve talked to) seem to be deciding whether they should go to graduate school or not.
Now, from talking to my friend, we’ll call him “Jeff”. Jeff graduate from college 10 years ago. He is happy in his job. He describes his job, however, as being the equivalent of making fries at McDonald’s. He gets paid $60k, he has little responsibility, and no room for growth. Every day he wonders if he should go to graduate school – someday, according to him, he’d like to be manager at the McDonald’s of his career and not just a fry-boy. Jeff has been “deciding” whether he should do it for nearly 4 years now. When you talk to Jeff, it is obvious that he really wants to be manager. He just is afraid to start the process and afraid he might fail.
Let me throw this out there, if you have been “deciding” on whether you should do something or not for 4 years… you have already decided.
And the answer is that you WANT to do it, but you’re letting FEAR get in your way.
It is a lot easier to SAY you’re “deciding” if you want to do something and not face potential failure than it is to DECIDE and just GO FOR IT.
You owe it to yourself to follow your dreams. You only have one life and one chance at all of this. Don’t let fear stop you from doing the things in your life that you want.
Greatness is done by people who are not afraid to be great