Personal Space and Freedom (on the web)
July 19, 2009 6 Comments
I’ve had my Facebook page for quite a while. Not as long as some, longer than others. Probably about 3 years now I’d say. I got it when you had to have a university email address to get an account.
I have really enjoyed using it to contact with old college friends and send messages to my friends in grad school and put up ridiculous pictures of myself. I have my page private – for a reason – I don’t want family and bosses to look at it. I use it strictly for my friends. I ENJOY using it with my friends. I don’t friend people I don’t have a friendship with in real life or that I don’t REALLY want to reconnect with. Yah, I turn down friend’s requests from people that I know, just because I don’t want them to see my page just because they know who my name. Knowing my name and knowing me are two VERY different things.
Two weeks ago one of my cousins friended me. And I didn’t think anything of it. She’s a cool girl so I accepted her request. Then this week, her mom and dad (my aunt and uncle) friend me. They’re cool cats.. so I allow it. Then ALL HELL BREAKS LOOSE. My other uncle friends me. My grandma friends me. My grandma’s brother friends me. My grandma’s brother’s daughter who was good friend’s with my mom but I have only met 4 times friends me.
And now I’m in a pickle. These people aren’t random people who might be mildly offended that I denied them friendship, they’re FAMILY. But I don’t want to friend them. My page is for me. And I don’t want them seeing what I say every day. I don’t want my grandma posting comments on my wall about how I should call her back cause she had called me 6 minutes ago. I don’t want my family life and my friend life merging. I JUST DON’T. I like a place on the internet with my friends where I can be me.
So, I’m in a pickle. I don’t want to friend them but am pretty sure it would cause a HUGE ordeal if I didn’t because they know I’m on there. Ugh… I don’t know what to do here. At least with my uncles I know they’ll behave themselves. I know that my grandma won’t.
Any advice? Please!